The universe can be a funny place sometimes. I’ve been doing a lot of research about a form of mental
abuse that a lot of us are not only susceptible to, but actually deal with every single day. It is one of those things
that we don’t even realize is happening to us, we just see the results: self-doubt, diminished self-esteem,
and reduced self-worth. The world has a way of beating even the best of us down from time to time
but this specific form of manipulation is one that can be identified and removed from our day-to-day existence.
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abuse that a lot of us are not only susceptible to, but actually deal with every single day. It is one of those things
that we don’t even realize is happening to us, we just see the results: self-doubt, diminished self-esteem,
and reduced self-worth. The world has a way of beating even the best of us down from time to time
but this specific form of manipulation is one that can be identified and removed from our day-to-day existence.
Buy an “Intelligence is sexy” t-shirt!
PLANTED SEEDS OF DOUBT
Back in 1938, there was a play called “Gas Light” that was later adapted into a movie in 1944.
In the story, a husband works diligently to convince his wife and their acquaintances that she is insane
by making very small and subtle changes to their environment. When the wife would point out the
changes, the husband convinced her that she was wrong about the changes and that she was crazy.
Slowly but surely, the wife starts to give in to the self-doubt created by those subtle changes, namely
a gas lamp that the husband keeps dimming, hence the term “gaslighting”.
In the story, a husband works diligently to convince his wife and their acquaintances that she is insane
by making very small and subtle changes to their environment. When the wife would point out the
changes, the husband convinced her that she was wrong about the changes and that she was crazy.
Slowly but surely, the wife starts to give in to the self-doubt created by those subtle changes, namely
a gas lamp that the husband keeps dimming, hence the term “gaslighting”.
OUR PERCEPTION IS OUR REALITY
In the play, the key was the husband’s ability to alter the wife’s perception of reality. She saw the lamp
as being dimmer and the husband assures her that it is not. He made he doubt her perception, and
therefore her reality. It is a form of mental abuse that people too often don’t even realize what
is happening to them. For the perpetrator, the ability to control the victim’s own perceptions of
themselves
and the things around them allows them to control the victim themselves. In reality, it happens every
single day. It’s all around us. How many advertisements do you see that claim that using their product
will somehow enhance your life? That’s a mild form of gaslighting. You are made to think that some
aspect of you or your life is incomplete. You are made to DOUBT yourself. Further, you are made
to think that whatever product is being peddled is the solution to what is supposedly lacking in
your life.
as being dimmer and the husband assures her that it is not. He made he doubt her perception, and
therefore her reality. It is a form of mental abuse that people too often don’t even realize what
is happening to them. For the perpetrator, the ability to control the victim’s own perceptions of
themselves
and the things around them allows them to control the victim themselves. In reality, it happens every
single day. It’s all around us. How many advertisements do you see that claim that using their product
will somehow enhance your life? That’s a mild form of gaslighting. You are made to think that some
aspect of you or your life is incomplete. You are made to DOUBT yourself. Further, you are made
to think that whatever product is being peddled is the solution to what is supposedly lacking in
your life.
GASLIGHTING IN OUR LIVES
The specific situation that inspired this article involved one of the most beautiful and amazing women
I have ever known dealing with a break up from a man that never deserved to be with her in the
first place. I explained to her that there are people in our lives who will try to break us down to be on their
level .So, what is the answer to gaslighting?
I have ever known dealing with a break up from a man that never deserved to be with her in the
first place. I explained to her that there are people in our lives who will try to break us down to be on their
level .So, what is the answer to gaslighting?
MAINTAINING YOUR OWN REALITY THROUGH
YOUR OWN PERCEPTIONS.
I’ll tell you now, the same thing I told her:
You see, my friend, there are people in this world who will look at a unicorn and think to themselves,
“woah, that is a unicorn, which is something I will never be.” They will try to convince you, the unicorn
, that you are just an average horse like them with a weird growth on your head that you should probably
get checked out by some kind of medical professional that deals with head growths. They will try to
steal your magic and make you as dull and ordinary as the plain, old horses that they are. Because
they need you to be a plain, old horse like they are, just to bring you down to their level…
The Secrets Behind The Science Of Persuasion
You see, my friend, there are people in this world who will look at a unicorn and think to themselves,
“woah, that is a unicorn, which is something I will never be.” They will try to convince you, the unicorn
, that you are just an average horse like them with a weird growth on your head that you should probably
get checked out by some kind of medical professional that deals with head growths. They will try to
steal your magic and make you as dull and ordinary as the plain, old horses that they are. Because
they need you to be a plain, old horse like they are, just to bring you down to their level…
The Secrets Behind The Science Of Persuasion
As we’ve established: you are not just a plain,old horse. You are not a fast race horse. You aren’t
even one f those fancy British horses that those chicks in those hot pant/knee-high boot getups
use to jump over stuff…
even one f those fancy British horses that those chicks in those hot pant/knee-high boot getups
use to jump over stuff…
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